Resolution vs. Intention: Part three; How to make your New Years resolutions last

Updated: Jan 21, 2020

"The enemy wants to keep you in isolation so that you'll never accomplish the desires God has placed on your heart. But you need to first set boundaries for yourself to become more aware of what and who you're being influenced by."

Hey Friends!

Welcome to The Avenue, where we are making our way to the way maker.

In case you missed part one and two of the series;

Resolutions vs. Intentions; How to make your New Years resolutions last

Here is the link,

Part one

Part two

Many people make resolutions at the start of January. And studies have shown by February, almost 80 percent will have failed. I believe this number is so high because of a lack of three things.

Keep reading if you want to learn the third thing we need to reach our goals in 2020!

3) Healthy Accountability

Proverbs 27:17

"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another."

This verse shows us what it means to have healthy relationships.

But how do you know if your friendships are healthy

- Those who you chose to spend life with will sharpen you, but only if they are equally yoked to you.

What does that mean?

2 Corinthians 6:14-15

"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? "

One of the biggest things I have had to learn is that not all of your friends will be your accountability.

And that's okay.

{ But one of the most important parts of reaching your goals is having those closest to you be your accountability and daily support.}

You can have friends that are good people, and you can have friends who challenge your walk with Jesus and never let you settle for just being good.

I love that it says, "what fellowship can light have with darkness."

Because yes, light can shine in the dark, but if you're the only one supplying that source, who is pouring into you?

Think about it like this; Has anyone ever shinned a light into your eyes

If you have a flashlight in your hand and you turn off all the lights and shine your light into someone, you can see them. But the majority of the time, the person your shining the light onto would be so blinded by the bright light they won't be able to see you.

You can't expect to be the only one shining light onto other people and then not having anybody else do the same for you.

(Maybe it's just me being an enneagram 2)

But I have to remind myself that I am just as important as the friend I'm supporting.

Know your worth.

You are who you surround yourself with. So be around people who give life, not just take life from you.

We weren't meant to be an island. You need a community.

The enemy wants to keep you in isolation so that you'll never accomplish the desires God has placed on your heart. But you need to first set boundaries for yourself to become more aware of what and who you're being influenced by.

Accountability doesn't work if the person doesn't want your best interest.

Do your friends get happy about your accomplishments despite their own obstacles?

Do they motivate you?

Do they challenge you?

Do they push you to be a better you?

Having healthy accountability around you will set you up to not settle for anything less than what God has for you because those types of friends won't let you have otherwise.

I love Pauls's letters to Timothy because it reveals the discipleship, love, and respect he had for their relationship.

He starts off at the beginning of Timonthy by being vulnerable, and open. Sharing to him the place he was at and what God has done for him. Two of the most important things you can have in a friendship. You need friends who you can go to with whatever you have done and know that you won't receive judgment but love.

1 Timothy 1:13-14

"Even though I was once a blasphemer and a persecutor and a violent man, I was shown mercy because I acted in ignorance and unbelief. The grace of our Lord was poured out on me abundantly, along with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus."

Paul then goes on to show Timonthy discipline not out of a place of authority, because he was older, but to tell him what he knows Timothy, as his friend, needs to hear and be reminded of.

You need friends who will always speak life onto you.

Who will constantly remind you of your worth.

1 Timothy 4: 12-16

"Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. Until I come, devote yourself to the public reading of Scripture, to preaching and to teaching. Do not neglect your gift, which was given you through prophecy when the body of elders laid their hands on you.

Be diligent in these matters; give yourself wholly to them, so that everyone may see your progress. Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will save both yourself and your hearers."

The way that Paul empowers Timothy is the same way your friends should speak to you.

Paul also expresses to us the way he covered his friend in prayer.

Although Paul, who was imprisoned, wasn't physically there for Timothy. He made sure that his spirit was. And that Timothy, no matter where he walked, would know that he was being prayed for and loved as a brother in Christ.

2 Timothy 1: 3-5

" I thank God, whom I serve, as my ancestors did, with a clear conscience, as night and day I constantly remember you in my prayers. Recalling your tears, I long to see you, so that I may be filled with joy. I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also."

I love that Paul mentions that he was waiting to see him so that he could experience more joy.

If being around your friends isn't making you feel more of the joy of the Lord.

What are you allowing yourself to be around.

Paul gives us a perfect example of what it means to have healthy accountability in a friendship.

And by having that type of accountability, achieving your God desired goals and walking in discipline, will naturally follow it.

Let this be a year of chasing after not just a resolution but an intention to live a life in complete surrender to God.

Set a goal! Do these three things, and I can promise the things God has for you will come to pass.

All of heaven is for you!


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