"Bad habits are the mental and physical things we do to find comfort, security, and satisfaction in something that can't fulfill us."
Hey Friends, HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Welcome to The Avenue, where we are making our way to the way maker.
Many people make resolutions at the start of January. And studies have shown by February, almost 80 percent will have failed. I believe this number is so high because of a lack of three things.
Keep reading if you want to learn the first thing we need to reach our goals in 2020!
There's an excitement about starting something new. But eventually, everything new becomes old. The motivation and hope you once started with becomes insubstantial. But why? Why is it so hard to have a goal and maintain it.
- The first thing we need to reach our goals is; Discipline
When you lack discipline, you lack self- control.
Which means sticking to something is that much harder. This is the one thing I used to struggle with the most. And no matter how hard I tried to break off bad habits, I found myself still doing them. So how do we overcome this?
Find the root
Somewhere you are planting seeds of addiction and praying that freedom comes out of it.
( You can't plant the seeds of watermelon and think it's going to grow strawberries.)
Some of us are continuously planting bad seeds and watering it, hoping that it will somehow change what it uproots.
I googled "habits," and this is what I found:
"Old habits are hard to break, and new habits are hard to form because the behavioral patterns which humans repeat become imprinted in neural pathways, but it is possible to form new habits through repetition."
Bad habits are the mental and physical things we do to find comfort, security, and satisfaction in something that can't fulfill us.
Most of the time, it's overdoing, not doing something enough, or doing something despite already knowing we shouldn't.
Know your "why" behind your goals
-Why is it your resolution? ( What are your motives? Is it something that's going to bring you closer to God or glorify him. You need first to check your heart. God isn't going to bless who you pretend to be.)
- What has stopped you from doing it before now?
- Why do I have this bad habit?
- What can I release to God to make room for change?
I'll never forget one day I was sitting in the kitchen at my aunt's house and my cousin decided after he ate a whole bag of popcorn that he needed more. So he placed the leftover unpopped kernels back into the microwave, hoping it would produce more, but it began to burn almost catching flame. We laughed despite not knowing why it happened. (And yes, we cooked another bag)
What we didn't know was that they couldn't pop in the first place. The kernels that don't get popped have a hole in the husk, causing the water to leak out. The pressure was never going to build up to produce the starch inside to pop.
He was trying to make something new out of something that's already damaged.
So, What does this have to do with discipline?
At some point, you have to surrender the broken parts of you to Jesus if you want to be made whole. Or you will burn yourself out trying to work on something that we don't have the ability to fix ourselves.
Your bad habits are like those bad seeds.
Everybody has something they know they need to change or work on to better themselves. We all have a seed inside us that somehow got a hole. From hurt, shame, guilt, and the list goes on.
But we can choose to throw it out and start new.
God wants to bless you with even more than you think
"I will look on you with favor and make you fruitful and increase your numbers, and I will keep my covenant with you. You will still be eating last year's harvest when you will have to move it out to make room for the new"
The more you spend time with God, the more disciplined you will be. And the easier it will be to obtain your goals.
But It starts with you being able to identify why you do the habit and give it to God.
"No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it".
God doesn't want your resolutions; he wants your intentions.
He wants you to thrive. He wants to help you rid yourself of things, not for you.
"Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. So be earnest and repent".
All of heaven is for you!
If you want to learn the second thing we need to reach our goals in 2020, come back next week to read Monday's blog.