4 things you need to stop doing in order to fall in love with the perfect man!

"You can't try to mold a man into who you want him to be. Because he wasn't made to please you, he was made to please God."

1) Stop trying to be rescued by someone who needs rescuing

Only Jesus can make you whole.

No man is capable of being your saving grace.

"For He rescued us from the domain of darkness, and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son." - Colossians 1:13

So stop putting unrealistic standards on someone to fill you up the way only Jesus can.

We are all broken people.

But if you don't love yourself first, then you will spend your whole life trying to find your worth in a man who will never satisfy your needs.

You don't go to the eye doctor for a broken arm. Why? Because even though they are still a doctor, they don't have the capability to fix the part of you that's broken.

So even if the person trying to date you are set free, it doesn't mean that they have the capability to now fix the things in you that need to be healed.

And that works both ways.

You can't try to mold a man into who you want him to be. Because he wasn't made to please you, he was made to please God.

"for the joy of the LORD is your strength" - Nehemiah 8:10

Not your husband.

So, we have to first be made whole in Him.

And by allowing yourself to operate out of the overflow, then you'll start to look at relationships with a different perspective. Because it won't just be what you can get out of it but how being together can make you see more of Christ.

2) Stop lowering your standards for temporary satisfaction

Know your worth.

You don't need somebody else to tell you who you are, you need to know who you are first in Christ, and your significant other should just add to your worth and joy.

You should never feel less than what God has called you to be.

They should love you not because of your flesh but your spirit in Christ.

We don't attract what we want, we attract who we are.

Women always say, " Men are just " fill in the blank", " All men are like that"

But the truth is, yes, if you keep dating people that are not meeting "your standards" it's probably not because of the man, it's something you need to fix within yourself.

Because, again, you're attracting who you are.

And that might be a hard pill to swallow.

But when you are a Woman of God, you will attract Men of God.

And the things you once struggled with in past relationships won't look like the same struggles. Because you will be respected and held to the standard of Jesus, not the world.

3) Stop living a life with a "single" mentality

Proverbs 18:22 -

"He who finds a wife finds a good thing And obtains favor from the Lord."

He who finds a wife finds a good thing.

Not a girlfriend, not even a fiance. A Wife.

So, you can't expect to find a guy to treat you with respect if you aren't even respecting yourself.

If you wouldn't say it, do it, or wear it, in front of your father, then what makes you think it's okay to do it in front of your heavenly father. Because there is never a moment, he is not with you.

So hold yourself to the standard of living a life already prepared to be a wife. And when you do, God will place a man in your life that is going to love you the way Jesus calls him to.

Because when you love and honor yourself the way Jesus has called you to, you won't settle for anything less.

4) Stop loving anything more than Jesus

He should always be your first priority.

Your soulmate is not your husband or your boyfriend.

Because he didn't die on the cross for you

Jesus did.

1 John 2:15-16

"Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions—is not from the Father but is from the world."

You should not desire marriage more than a relationship with God.

You should not desire any relationship more than a relationship with God.

And I would even go as far as saying if you talk about marriage more than you talk to God.

You aren't ready to be married.

And In order to find the perfect man, you have to first stop doing these things.

Wait on the Lord.

Pray for your spouse, even before you know him. Because Jesus already does.

He is not a God of time, so thank him for the things yet to come.

I pray over my husband, my household, and my kids, every day. Because, I want to walk into a marriage that's already been fought for, prayed over, and blessed by the Lord. So that the enemy will not have a room in my home.

And when you do these things, God will give you a spouse, a best friend, and a teammate.

Who is also seeking to find the perfect man...



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